I want a lower back tattoo, but I hate the stigma attached to it!!! What do you think?

If you want to do it that badly you already would have done it. Instead you're looking for validation for something you really don't want to do. I think its nice you want to do something to honor your grandmother but a tatoo will not do that. It will make you look cheap without honoring anyone. I think you know that deep down inside but want to be cool and please your husband. Don't do it for anyone else but you if you must do it at all. And I'm not fond of your design at all. It's been done, it's old and tired, and I think you'll live to regret it.